Can an addict have a relationship and not be sexual?

Juliett55

Is it possible that a drug addict, who says he is not physically in love with his girlfriends isn't sleeping with her? She was a virgin for the first two years of their relationship, don't know now (it's been 4), but recently they moved in together because she bought a house. He is barely a month clean.
I think he is using her as a cover up in front of his parents so they don't think something is wrong with him. He is also madly attracted to another girl but doesn't feel worthy right now.

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Loraura

Re: Can an addict have a relationship and not be sexual?

I'm not sure what your question is. Can you clarify a little?

Juliett55

Re: Can an addict have a relationship and not be sexual?

Can a drug addict have a 4 year relationship with girl, that he said he is not physically in love with, and not be sexually active? She was a virgin for the first two years of it, but now they moved in together because her parents bought a house.
He is madly attracted to another woman that he can't have because of his problems etc. but needs a cover up in front of the parents since they don't know of addiction.

Loraura

Re: Can an addict have a relationship and not be sexual?

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Can drug addict have a 4 year relationship with girl, that he said he is not physically in love with, and not be sexually active?

Anything is possible. A better question -- why is this important to you?
Are you looking for a way to prove that he is an addict? A liar?
Whatever it is he's doing is his issue, right?
Are you either one of the women in his love/lust triangle?

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rain141

Re: Can an addict have a relationship and not be sexual?

I have been in a relationship for 5 years and the sex stopped after 6 months. He likes to say that he wants sex and that it's all my fault that we don't have it but in the end... sex just doesn't happen.

I'm too resentful of his addiction and behaviors to even think about it being intimate. He is either high and running around in circles (collecting junk, "fixing things" for hours, etc..) and comes to bed way to late for me to even notice. When he's coming off of the drugs he has a psychotic episode for a few days and then sleeps until then next binge. No time for sex there.

I believe that he is using me for a cover up to the world... I make him look normal. I stick with it because I'm afraid to leave someone who frequently has psychotic breaks.