Dating an addict

Dating an Addict

I am in a 3 year relationship w/ someone I've known for 10 years. He has a meth problem, but he doesn't think so. He probably uses 3-5 times a month. He used to tell me when he did, because it'd be very apparent and obvious. But since we have not been living together for the past 2 months, I think he has been using more frequently and now he doesn't tell me anymore when he does use. He lies to me now. He doesn't think it's a big deal and doesn't understand why I have such a cow about it. However, it's very apparent when you look at the way he's been living his life for the past 10 years. It's taking it's toll on our relationship. I can't trust him anymore. It's tearing me apart. I have tried to leave him a few times, but can never follow through. I am totally frustrated and heart broken. He has such good intentions, but reading through all these posts, it just reconfirms that he is an addict but just can't see it. Thanks for listening. Had to tell someone, somewhere. I really commend everyone who quits and stays sober.

Loraura

Re: Dating an Addict

Have you tried attending an Al-Anon meeting or 3?
Many people there will understand what you are going through.
No one there will judge you for staying, or going.
What you WILL find there, should you choose to look for it, is peace, serenity, and strength to do what is best for you.

www.al-anon.alateen.org/

www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting.html

silly
veronica

Re: Dating an Addict

Welcome - I'm in your same shoes. They have a name for us -- it's called codependent.

If you can get to a meeting, GO!!! Also stick around this site. Almost all of my own recovery has come from this site, as well as some really great books.

Unfortunate how you ended up here - but welcome!

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