Change is a process...but it does happen

mojo8888

Change is a process...but it does happen

My son and I were standing in the downstairs of our house on Friday. I was helping him straighten his tie for his wedding. He looked at me and asked me if I remember what it was like over two years ago. He had moved back home and was living in that same room for a short time.
He had lost almost everything he owned and decided to go to a long term meth program. At that time he wanted everything to be the way it was before meth and so did we. We naively thought that when he stopped using and went into treatment he would be the same person we knew before meth. We could not have been more wrong. It took several months, actually closer to a year for him to get back his health and heal his mind.
He worked the program, came home and met a great girl several months later. She understood what he had gone through and let him find his way. We had our ups and downs, but we could see steps and learned to lower our expectations. Today I can say I honestly look at things in a different light. We don't take each other for granted. We let things happen and don't force things.
People do recover, this board has many success stories and thank God my son is one of them.
For those in recovery the stats are just numbers. Give situations a chance to change it does take time.

guestwho

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Mojo, thanks for sharing what can and does happen. Congrats to you and your son, both for recovery and his getting married.
Bless you and yours.

XOutlaw
Woman

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What a great message of hope and joy. Thanks for sharing it.

Debs
4321

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Thank you for your post. I needed to hear it too. I feel like I am never going to get better. Never gonna get back on my feet. But I am not gonna stop trying. Just hard right now.

Lost
Angel

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Ditto. I'm glad that recovery is working for your son. May God continue to bless you and your family

mlg

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"We let things happen, and don't force things."
Ultimate Wisdom!
We are now going through the Early Recovery stage' with our beautiful daughter. She has come such a long way.
There are more "issues" to be dealt with, however, we are thankful for each progressing day.

Great post...Thanks.

Penel0pe

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Wow.

That was more than two years ago? Time flies... congrats to you, your son, and your new daughter too!

sdm
sanjose

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He worked the program ,came home and met a great girl several months later.

I love to hear great news and your son and family has great news written all over it!

Your son worked the Teen Challenge program and is to be commended for staying with that one year IP program. Now is over 2 years clean and met a great girl and is going to get married!

We have communicated through out the years and I remember telling you how I wished my son would follow in your sons footsteps. That is starting to happen as my son will graduate from a IP treatment program this month. My son said he wants a great girl someday but that he has to work more on himself before he can be of some good to a girl.
You will be one of the first to know when that happens!

Thanks for sharing your son and the other blessings your family has experienced!

writerjp

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That is SO amazing. Thanks for sharing that with us!