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controller1971 |
giving up
What do you do when your daughter just
pretends she doesn't have a problem. I only see her once
a week, when she comes to visit her daughters. She just
talks, eats and naps,,,,but never lets on that she has a
drug problem. Should I confront her as I have in the
past? She always denies. She never calls her daughters
just to speak to them during the week. She shows up late
on Saturday night when they are already in bed and then
stays up half the night and then is too tired to get up
and enjoy them. They just love getting to see her.
Should I confront her????? I know she is in pain. I want
to be there for her, should she decide to finally admit
she needs help. Any suggestions?
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Tamtom |
Re: giving up
remember as long as there is breath there
is hope.
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Guene |
Re: giving up
Maybe you should lay some rules down, tell
her to show up when she can spend some time with her
daughters, if she can't come there early then don't come
at all. Maybe you should tell her that this house isn't
a hotel, or a food place. If she wants to visit then
visit, if she just needs a place to crash then don't
bother. Sounds to me like she using your place to crash
and she could care less about what's important her
daughters. Sometimes you just need to let go and let
god.
Are her daughter's getting what they need from her when
she's there? How is your daughter affecting them, in a
good way or bad? How is this affecting you? just some
things to think about. Hugs and love Bobbie
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NoMore4Me |
Re: giving up
I've learned that people will do what you
allow.
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controller1971 |
you are right
And I have allowed her just to show up late
and then nap...but that is gonna end. Starting now, I am
going to let her know that if she wants to see to girls,
that is fine, but come when they are still awake, and
forget napping...if they are up, she is going to be up.
If anyone should have a nap, it should be me! Thanks
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