My girlfriend using meth

why!!!.. i met this girl a few months ago, she is 22 and me and her connnected very well with our personalities, the problem is i have tried and tried and tried again to get through her head about her meth smoking problem, and all she does is laugh it off... i, she is very beatiful too and has been smokin it for 3 years now...but she is a fuckign @#%$ that cant open her eyes!!!!! and yes i admit i tried it a few times..

I THANK GOD im not addicted to it!

Unfortunately there is not much you can do. If she does not think she has a problem, no amount of trying to convince her will change her mind. You can learn a lot here about how not to help her continue to use. Read some of the posts. She is not going to change until she is ready. Bottom line.

Hi hon and welcome to the forum.

What do you do? You take care of you and if that means walking away, then do so.

She won't quit for you, she won't accept the help you offer, and even if she seems to be accepting help she will be using it and you.

She will quit when she is ready, when she can do it for herself. When that will be not even she knows.

Hon, at this point you are in love with an image...you spoke of personalities...the personality she has presented to you is the personality meth is allowing her. You haven't even met the real woman yet.

Stay, love her and there is cost, huge cost...do you love her enough not to count it? And how much do you love yourself? Because the self love will diminsh little by little, being replaced with pain and fear.

We say loving a meth addict is an investment. It is up to you to decide how much of an investment you are willing to give...

But if you are going to love her, it is better to be ready not to count the cost.

Do yourself a favor and walk away and don't look back she's going to cause you nothing but grief I know that for a fact I was in the same spot you are the only difference is I had over 10 yrs invested (wasted)in what I thought was a relationship but come find out it was all lies all the I love you's ,your my soulmate ,no one will ever take your place don't mean @#%$ in the end her soulmate is in her pipe !

Quote: her soulmate is in her pipe !

There you have it in a nutshell
Powerful words ... and filled with 100% truth.

Passion

God didn't. She picked up meth and took herself away.

I know how you feel! It's not easy but after awhile you'll see you're better off w/o her I can tell you what you have to look forward to she'll lie ,use,cheat,and steal from you and not have any shame ,remorse,or guilt I can guarentee it She's probably already done all of the above so don't feel bad or like you're abandoning her because she didn't feel bad when she abandoned you

I TALKED TO HER TODAY ON THE PHONE.. AND I FEEL BAD FOR HER.......I HAD HER CRYING AND DEPRESSED..

I DONT WANNA HURT HER NO MORE..
but @#%$ it.. she chose a life of miseralbe lonelieness and death

how sad and disgustin to see a girl i once loved destroy herself with her glass dick

You're going to the same place I'm coming back from and all I can tell you is its gonna get worse you're going to the same place I'm coming back from believe me when I tell you I feel your pain good luck!

i want her to come back to me .
her life is full of true loneliness!\\

and now i abanndoned her, just like everyone else has...

i was truly there for her for whenever... but i ended up another victim and she doesnt wana talk to me

.... but i realize that the @#%$ will always love her glass pipe... thats what she really loves..

and i wish nothing but the best for her in life.

il never hate her.. but i hate what she is turning into
and that is a worthless terrible mother on drugs..

how sick...

I know how it feels but don't make the same mistake I did and think you can help her because you can't ! I can tell you exactly what you have to look forward too and it's nothing I'd wish on anybody not even her. Let her go she left you along time ago

been there done that...hon she will only quit when she is ready....my x too use to cry alot and tell me things were going to change but, the fact is that it doesnt. Not for yo anyway. They have to want to walk away from this evil drug. Let her go and deal with her addiction. Otherwise it will rule your life too. Dont lose 2 1/2 years of your life with an addict like I did. their are others out their that you will connect with. I am a saver....hell if I could have got my x off the dope we would still be together because when I met him he was the perfect guy for me.....it takes time to get over but, at least you are early enough in your relationship that you will bounce back a little quicker. Dont pull yourself down. She now knows you dont like it.... so now is when she will start hiding it from you. Let her heal....then when the timing is right maybe you will be able to see the real her. Some times we are just savers and when we cant save or they are saved then the feelings go away.....just a thought lol good luck. steph

You seem like a very passionate person.

I am too.

People like us are devoted and determined and eager...and also pretty intense. It's not a bad quality. Feeling passionate about something/someone can give your life meaning...make it feel worth living.

At the same time, you do have to be careful. It's very easy to get wrapped up in something and lose sight of everything else. It almost becomes an obsession. The problem usually arrises when things don't go the way we'd hoped. We've already given so much of ourselves, that when, what we were focused on, is gone, we feel empty...defeated...devistated.

I think you should try to take a step back and evaluate your relationship realistically. It's only been a few months and you already say you love her, which, may very well be true. There are many degrees of love. Do you feel like you share the kind of love that will keep you together forever--through thick and thin? It's tough sometimes.

You mentioned, a couple times, that she's very pretty. Attraction is important in a relationship and it's obvious that you are attracted to her. That's good. I just hope that her physical appearance isn't one of the main reasons you're drawn to her...if she's doing meth, her looks are gonna fade very fast. Will you still love her if her teeth rot and her hair falls out? Consider it, because if she continues to use, it's very possible.

Also, you said that you've never tried meth. I envy you.

Be so very careful, my fellow passionate one, I guarantee that if you stick around, there's a good chance she'll try to convince you to try it. She'll claim that it's not that bad and you should see for yourself. If this day ever comes, turn and run as fast as you can.

You can't save people who aren't ready to be saved. Walk away. If it's meant to be, you'll figure it out...just not while she's still using.

Good luck,
Haley

If she has been smoking meth for 3 years, and you have known her for a few months, do the math. You do not truely know this girl's real personality. You know a girl on meth. What you see is a personality on drugs. Not the real thing at all. Just my two cents, for what it's worth.

Immnna concur with XOW, it's tough to truly know someone who's tweaked all the time. We see the extremes of emotions but never see the "level" nature of the true person.
The best thing you can do for her is live clean and sober, someone in her condition will often find it very attractive and want it for themself. Recovery cannot be forced upon an addict regardless of what we say or how we say it.
One thing is for sure, there will never be an easier time to recover than NOW, each gram takes us farther away from ourself. How old is she? and where is her family?

Her mind is dulled due to drug abuse. It is hard to think fast on go-fast. I do not know what you mean by will she ever be the same. You do not know what she was like before her addiction, so what is "the same"? Personally I am not the same. I used meth for about 5 years. Snorting and smoking. It has affected me in many ways that may not even be apparent yet. I am a different person now than I was when I was a user. A better person. She may get better too. Her physical state will improve, as will her mental state, if she stays off the shyt. She will continue to go downhill if she continues to use.

The drug is the liar, it fools our brain to believe nothing but lies & illusions. One thing is true, your friend loves you and cares deeply for you, regardless of what that lying demon drug would have you believe.
I think it's great that you're here, that shows huge strength and courage on your part. If you want to stop using, keep coming here, and pay no mind to what others are doing, this is about you! we know what your going through and we know how to change it. You have a lot of friends here that you need to meet, count me in We're here 4u 24/7 Welcome!

Gotta type this.... [again]

What you are is Gods gift to you.
What you make of yourself is your gift to God.

Not ALL of us are saying to walk away. My bf stuck it out with me when I decided I wanted to quit. He did not walk away. We have been together for a year and a month now with me off the stuff. Prior to that he just wanted to be "friends". He knew how messed up I was, and still loved me more than I loved myself. He gave me the incentive to keep on going without drugs.