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Why return help to support groups like AA or Al-Anon?


notold
ash
Why do people not help other support groups like AA or Al-Anon?
I use to be in Alanon years back.
Every once in a while this forum has someone that had been through a support group like Alanon/Naranon and or an alcoholic that's been through AA now on a meth run.

Why is it that people that have gotten help from these types of support groups don't return to them first thing when things go bad?

I'm wondering if it would be because while they went through the program... they didn't really work it or grasp the concepts?

Any thoughts?
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teqa
peq
Re: Why do people not help other support groups like AA or Al-Anon? 
Pride comes to mind

Loraura Re: Why do people not help other support groups like AA or Al-Anon? 
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Why is it that people that have gotten help from these types of support groups don't return to them first thing when things go bad?

Perhaps because they KNOW they can't keep alcohol (or their previous drug of choice) under control, but feel that perhaps a different drug, would be OK. They would be able to handle it. It wouldn't cause their lives to become unmanageable.

notold
ash
Re: Why do people not help other support groups like AA or Al-Anon? 
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Perhaps because they KNOW they can't keep alcohol (or their previous drug of choice) under control, but feel that perhaps a different drug, would be OK. They would be able to handle it. It wouldn't cause their lives to become unmanageable.

But aren't these programs teaching that an addict needs to avoid all and any substances?

My reason for asking is because I plan to get involved in alanon or something for loved ones of addicts. I was a spouse and I don't ever want to walk this path again. I realize there are no guarantees in life but I DO want to learn and change in my own recovery so that I can someday be part of a healthy relationship.

Am I putting too much hope and faith in a program such as Alanon?

luve
piphany
Re: Why do people not help other support groups like AA or Al-Anon? 
I don't know, I have kept the wisdom and all from AA/NA since I was 18 and I went right to Alanon and Naranon as soon as I was reminded with the H3ll of addiction affecting my life. I remembered all after my first meeting. I had given away my literature but bought it right away because I new how much it would help.

People are just so different

Nta, Alanon/Naranon are programs for positive spiritual LIVING for you. I plan on staying in Alanon at least for the rest of my days if I can, even if it's just visits. I know I will have an Alanon family just about anywhere I go in the world and will be welcomed and loved by them. It is MY program and MY family and I like that.

I learn things there that I haven't ever learned anywhere else..

Loraura Re: Why do people not help other support groups like AA or Al-Anon? 
You get out of it what you put into it.
Period.
Regardless of which 12 step program you participate in.

Are you looking for a reason not to go and give Alanon a try?
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But aren't these programs teaching that an addict needs to avoid all and any substances?

Doesn't matter what they teach when an addict let's self-will take over and drive.

Falling for one's own denial generator (thoughts) can easily make relapsing on a different drug seem like it's not a problem.

Perhaps for some it isn't.

Some people have to find out the hard way by going out again, on a different drug, to realize that for them, it doesn't matter what the drug is.

notold
ash
Re: Why do people not help other support groups like AA or Al-Anon? 
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Are you looking for a reason not to go and give Alanon a try?

Nope just making sure it's what I think it is. I pretty much figured you get out of it what you put into it.

Loraura Re: Why do people not help other support groups like AA or Al-Anon? 
Suggestion: Leave your expectations behind, and just go to meetings and listen.
If you have expectations set up in advance, you are setting yourself up to be angry if those expectations aren't met.
Leave those thoughts behind, and go with an open mind.

The only thing I needed to know was that it worked for millions of other people. I'm not so unique that it couldn't work for me, too.

notold
ash
Re: Why do people not help other support groups like AA or Al-Anon? 
Will Do Lauraua! Thanks for the advice.

 


 

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