| sadinca |
Meth addict behavior or mood change question...
My BF can care about me one day
and be nice and easy to talk to and then after we have a little
disagreement or for whatever reason ABSOLUTELY HATES me the next
day! What is going on? Is this the drug or is this his true
feelings? Of course you don't know him so you don't know his
feelings for me (12 years together and 2 kids) BUT have you
experienced this at all? Does this even make sense? |
Naiev
Newly
wed |
Re: Meth addict behavior or mood change question...
Welcome Sadinca.
Yes it makes perfect sense.
Before my hubby got deep into his using - he was happy and a joy
to be around one day (when he would use) and a complete ass and
blamed me for everything the next (when he was coming down).
It's one hell of a roller coaster loving an addict. I'm sorry
you're having to go through this. |
| hyg436 |
Re: Meth addict behavior or mood change question...
I wonder the same thing
sometimes. My experience with this is that I know that meth has
made my BF very edgy. He would lash out at me over the smallest
things. I never understood until I found out he had been using.
I guess the tweaking just made him into something he wasn't. He
was normally nice, even tempered...then he gradually became more
and more ill and I just couldn't do anything right it seemed. I
look back on a road trip from h#$$ and realize now what caused
the screaming that seemed to come out of nowhere and lasted for
miles. I don't know if this helps at all, but I do know that it
changed his personality, especially towards me. Maybe that's why
he's acting that way towards you??? I just know that it's not a
"nice" drug. Not for long anyways. |
| hyg436 |
Re: Meth addict behavior or mood change question...
Thank you NEWLYWED. That
explained my BF's behavior to a tee recently. It's at least nice
to know why it all happened. Moodiness is not a fun aspect of
this at all. It's incredibly hard to bear. |
| sadinca |
Re: Meth addict behavior or mood change question...
Sorry about that -- I'm just so
frustrated! He is not in recovery. He uses more now than ever
before. Of course I don't know how much and it would all be lies
if he tried to tell me anyway. But, I see the difference in him.
The loss of weight, the isolation, the irritability, the total
lack of caring, BUT what I just don't understand is the HATE
that seems to come from him sometimes. Oh, and just for me. So I
guess that's what I'm asking about -- is it a characteristic of
a meth addict. I believe he was a meth addict when I first met
him - I just was so naive and didn't know anything about it. I
do know now though that this is the worse I have ever seen him.
But still caring one minute - a total evil a** the next! |
| vctry7 |
Re: Meth addict behavior or mood change question...
Quote:
is it a characteristic of a meth
addict.
Yes. It is the cycle. When you are high,
especially on the first day or two, everything is good and right
in the world. When you are coming down everything is wrong.
He takes it out on you because he can. His drug buddies might
not want to hang around with the next time they have some dope
if he goes off on them. He can't do it to the stranger in the
store because he might go to jail. You are there and you are
willing to take it. Only you can break the cycle for yourself. |
BentBut
Not
Broken1 |
Re: Meth addict behavior or mood change question...
meth is seriously robbing your
addict of a brain chemical that allows the feeling
good--dopamine....thus the moods and different personality.
Loraura has a great article on dopamine and the brain on meth.
welcome to KCI & I'm sorry your addict is so controlled by this
drug. |
desp
house
wife |
Re: Meth addict behavior or mood change question...
That type of behavior was one of
my signs that he was again using.
Happy one day, taking on the world, then...
So down, so angry, hating himself and everyone else.
That's Meth, and, I do agree that Meth gets way too much credit,
like if he's prone to being an A$$hole, then Meth will make it
worse.
But under that. there is still an A$$hole to contend with...
JMO..
Good Luck! |
bookrat
21 |
Re: Meth addict behavior or mood change question...
First of all, I am certainly no
expert. But I CAN tell you that my guy is almost the exact same
way. When he is coming down (or whatever you want to call it) he
is hell to live with. We fight, he yells, everything is MY fault
for at least a couple of days. Then (the part that drives me
crazier than anything) he acts as if NOTHING happened at all!!!
All the while, my feelings are still hurt & I am still mad. Now
days, he pretty much just stays in the bedroom for a couple of
days until he feels like coming out. I don't know if that is
better or worse, but at least he isn't yelling at me. Anyway, I
would say that your man's behavior is fairly typical. And like
it has been said to me over and over ... you don't have to live
with it. You can tell him to get clean or get out. Don't let it
run your life like it is running his. (Easier said than done...I
AM an expert in that department.) Just know that you aren't
alone. That has helped me more than anything. |
gods
serenity |
Re: Meth addict behavior or mood change question...
meth doesn't cause you to hate
someone but it does cause you to not love them. i have
borderline personality disorder but meth made it a 100 times
worse.
meth causes you to really not care about anything or anyone. if
your SO can't deal with something, you're like ah well, next. if
you don't want to do something, you just don't do it because you
could care less about the consequences. it's a false sense of
peace that pulled me in for a long time. thankfully, losing a
lot finally woke me up. |
luve
piphany |
Re: Meth addict behavior or mood change question...
I asked him today if withdrawing
from me and abandoning me, which hurts me, helps him feel better
when he's "depressed".........
He said, "no" but he also said that he's not trying to hurt me
even though he knows he's hurting me with the rejection....
See, it's crazy-that is NOT NORMAL and that sends me back to
thinking "it's his disease-sickness"----it's HIS. What we
non-users think is hateful-is not what the addict's think is
hate.
Psychologists should be free to meth addicts and lovers of em! |
