Why do recovering addicts shut off or not respond during recovery?

I wanted to ask my friends addicts about the reasons they would shut off, or not respond during early recovery.

My addict and I have very supportive and loving (not sexual right now) relationship, but he tends to shut off for weeks at a time quite often. Even if I tell him supportive things and sweetly ask to call when he can.
He is on antidepressants, but still....

I don't want to be depressed about it or beat myself up for no reason, that would not be good for ether one of us. Just want to understand, so I can be a better support when the need comes.

I totally agree on this statement. Each deals with their own recovery in their own way. My other 1/2 deals with his in this way. He shuts down, or retracts into his own world. I think its part guilt, mixed feelings, and just plain feeling. Which is most of the reasons why we end up using anyway.. Right? I find men mostly find it easier to just shut down and withdraw. Not to mention everything else that goes along with quitting. body aches, nerves on major FRAZZLE mode. Mind going crazy and just who and what do you trust anymore.

Have patience, understanding and as hard as it may be at times don't take it too personal. That's always been my mistake. Have a good day.