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My daughter, age 35, is using Meth
controller
1971 |
my daughter is using meth
I have not been here in awhile.
My daughter is 35 years old. She started using meth approx 3
years ago. Her children are now 5 and 4 and they stay with their
dad most of the time, because my daughter is staying with
someone who cannot allow the children at her rental home. The
kids are better off with the dad, of course. I never hear from
my daughter unless she needs a favor. She rarely asked me for
anything monetarily, but she gets food stamps for her and the
girls, but the food stamps get traded for money and very little
is donated for food for the girls. Fortunately, their dad takes
care of them in that dept. Every time, I see my daughter she
looks skinnier and skinnier. She could not weigh more than 85
pounds. She has never admitted that she has a meth problem. The
only reason I know is because a former close friend of hers told
me that she and my daughter use to smoke it on a daily basis.
Since, her friend has turned her life around and no longer
associates with my daughter. Since my daughter refuses to admit
to me she has a problem, I just keep playing a game with her
just to keep the door open so that we are on speaking terms. She
has no job and even though she has been offered many, she never
seems to take enough interest to apply. the lady that she stays
with is my age and feels sorry for her and allows her to stay
and in return my daughter supplies some groceries with her food
stamps that are intended for her and the girls. I have tried to
turn this situation over to God, and for the most part I have
stayed strong in attempting to go on with my life. I am having a
rough time lately sleeping just wandering what is going to
become of her. I know that she is depressed and misses her kids,
but yet she is not doing anything positive to change her
situation. Am I just to sit back and ignore the situation? |
| Replies... |
| TerryCa |
Re: my daughter is using meth
Hello, so much of what
your saying is like that of my daughter. The obvious signs of
using drugs, weight loss, apathetic, lifeless and denial. I
found not accusing but stating that I will support her treatment
in rehab. has been the best communication with the least amount
of hatred from her.
You are doing the right thing IMO, and giving the burden
to God.
As long as the children are safe, loved and cared for then that
is what needs to be done for them.
I would let your daughter know without any shadow of doubt that
you love her. That you are there for her when she wants help
getting away from drugs.
I wish you could change her, but we impatiently wait on the
sidelines for the day that they run very fast from their
addiction.
Strength/hope/love/hugs to ya |
| robinrue |
Re: my daughter is using meth
stop "the game" your
enabling - if u love her and I'm sure u do-this is not a game
-tell her-i lov u - i know the game and I'm not playing -i lov
ya-call me when you are ready for the help- i know you will
need, and i pray you ask - mother of 20 year old meth addict |
luve
piphany |
Re: my daughter is using meth
Oh mom, you are doing and
loving just as you should. You are the greatest!! Keep seeing
those kiddos, they will be your life-line when the sadness hits
for sure.
Keep coming back here where you are needed. |
upagainst
thewall |
Re: my daughter is using meth
"I have tried to turn
this situation over to God"
I have so been there and done this. It is only when I finally
admitted that I could not do it any longer and
truly said here God she is your child deal with her , that
things truly started to change. It is a very slow process but I
see some changes. It will not happen overnight but I know God
will handle this.
It is only a mom's nature to worry about our kids, no matter
what age they are they are still our babies. God's blessings to
you. |
controller
197 |
Re: my daughter is using meth
I appreciate all the
support you all are giving me. I had the most horrible dream
this morning that my daughter died. I cried and cried. So I
emailed her and told her how much I love and miss her and I also
let her know that I know she has a problem and that I am always
here for her when she wants and needs help. thanks again for
your comments. I am watching her girls today and they bring me
joy! |
| Guene |
Re: my daughter is using meth
controller1971 Good to see you again, I'm so sorry about your
daughter, If you remember my daughter was on meth too, but she's
says she's clean, I pray she is. At the first of the year my
husband and I decided we couldn't live with her and her problems
anymore so we sold our house and moved to Montana. It was the
hardest thing we ever Had to do, but I also knew I couldn't deal
with all the pain and my health problems anymore.
She seems to be doing good and she's working and has a really
nice boyfriend, the point is I felt the same way, I can't leave
her, I have to protect her, but she didn't care about how we as
her parents felt, she only cared about herself, once we took
that support blanket away, she knew she had to do it on her own
and she is. Let go and let god, you didn't cause it, you can't
control it and you can't cure it, only she can. Love and Hugs
Bobbie |
controller
1971 |
Re: my daughter is using meth
Thanks again, You put it plain
and simple. I just have to continually remind myself! |
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