Why would someone do this?

queenb92

me and my hubby have some friends that we used to use with they came to our wedding and everything (one flew here from AZ). Well they knew we were clean now and that I was expecting. They were stopping through the town were we lived and called us and asked us if they could stop by. We hesitated for a minute and decided it would be fine cause we knew they wouldn't bring it in or do it while they were at our house. When they got there they were so spun that it made us sick, and on top of that they kept going in the bathroom to do bumps. When they left we were just kind of in shock we didn't know what to say. But why would people do this especially to people who were doing well over 1gm a day and maybe 2 for almost 2 years

blueeyez1071

Re: Why would someone do this?

They were not thinking about you and your husbands recovery, they were thinking about that high.....

Cabird

Why would someone do this?

They are active users. They are not going to respect the fact that you are clean. They are going to keep on using meth and keep on using anyone and everyone else too.

vlussi

Re: Why would someone do this?

I had a so called friend of mine do the same thing. She knew I had 8 months clean, and I later found out she was laughing with others saying wouldn't it be fun to get me spun out....People in active addiction are selfish people .And misery loves company. I would say the next time your so called friends show up, show them the door.

Savannah05

Re: Why would someone do this?

Why would they do this.....I think the question is why would you let them do this to you. If you knew they were doing "bumps" in your bathroom, in your home and around a pregnant woman then you should have told them to get the @#%$ out!!! Honey you have to take care of you and yours first and foremost. No they weren't thinking about what they were doing all they cared about is getting high, in fact tweakers do not do any logical thinking. It obviously bothered you and your hubby to have them there. Take care of yourself sweetie and don't let people invade your personal space!

Kellhappy

Re: Why would someone do this?

Queen,
I'm so sorry that happened. I am not too surprised though. To you they were "all spun", but to them it was just another day. It's not OK. It's using behavior. But it is a hard lesson to learn. That's why NA teaches changing our playgrounds, playmates and playthings. In this case, your old "playmates" or using buddies, are still living in the world of meth, it would no more occur to them to respect your clean time and new lifestyle than it would to try and breathe under water. Of course, we know (NOW) that it isn't safe to bring meth around pregnant people (or any people, for that matter), but that doesn't mean I have never seen pregnant people trying to kick.

I kind of struggle with a few of my old buddies. Some have even told me they are proud of me for quitting. I just wonder if that's a kind of desperation talking, like a small part of them sometimes wishes they would/could quit. On the other hand, I don't think that sentiment really lasts past the time it took them to say it. When I was using, my only thought was "where is my next hit of dope coming from". I genuinely care for some of the people I left behind. I did hang out with some for a while. I had a girlfriend try to talk me into using with her more than once. Mostly, I only see anyone I used with in public places now, running into them at grocery stores and things. I think that's the only way that'll work for me. My house is drug and alcohol free. I guess if I found out someone used in my house, that'd be their one chance, and they wouldn't be welcome back until they were clean. I've got to be kind of a hard-ass about it, because I have an eleven month old baby. (If I were at your house, I would've probably worked myself into an ex-tweeker-tweeked out frenzy of cleaning my bathroom) It's not only the baby, though, it's my sobriety. My recovery, I hope, is strong enough to keep me from putting something questionable up to my nose, but I don't need to be finding that stuff or be testing myself like that.

OK, so the short answer would have been....when you're using, only drugs matter...

Peace and Love,
Kelly

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