Effects of using Meth after 3 months in jail

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3 mo without it and not a word of any sort of recovery came out of his mouth while in jail.

he just went off somewhere, right from jail....don't even know who picked him up!! He did not call family or friends of family for a ride....just gone!!<

I asked to pick him up, said he would call!! Yeah, right. It is now 10 hours later...no call. So I am sure he probably went straight to someone who would supply him!!! What say you???? He never mentioned ever wanting things to be different, but I am always hoping...

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I have to ask, Kitty, why are you hoping anything in relation to this guy?

He is an addict behaving like an addict. He has spent three months in jail giving no indication that he wanted any form of recovery. Therefore he has shown that he never had any desire to do anything but go out and score the minute he was released.

So why would you expect it to be otherwise? And why have you made his drug addiction your concern?

You really think that when he's been waiting for a hit for three months the first thing he's going to do on release is find a phone and call you to thank you for caring about him?

For an addict in active addiction, priorities 1-100 are always going to be how they'll score the next hit.

You can expect not to hear from this fella until he's broke, burnt and blistered and looking for a warm sweet safe place where he can crash.

Only then can you expect him to call you and blow so much hot air up your fanny that you'll want to instantly float off to pick him up wherever he's stranded himself.

Sweetheart, please do yourself a BIG favor and stop attaching your happiness to expecting an addict to behave any other way than just like an addict.

Until he, of his own accord, embraces recovery he will continue to behave like the addict he is.

Meanwhile don't tie your happiness to any balloon with his name on it.

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Only then can you expect him to call you and blow so much hot air up your fanny that you'll want to instantly float off to pick him up wherever he's stranded himself.

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I read this and I laughed so hard... I can't tell you how long it has been since I laughed that hard.

I was eating and choked, I laughed so hard.
And I thought I was blunt....
Kudos to you, k8kanguru!!!!  I think you are my new hero!!!!!
Your reply was great!!! Blunt but great... Got love you girl!!!!!!