Can you just use meth every now and then?

MY HUSBAND FIRST TOLD ME HE USED METH ABOUT 2 YEARS AGO. HE SAYS HE ONLY DOES IT EVERY NOW AND THEN SHOULD I BELIVE HIM?? HE HIS ALWAYS PARANIOD AND THINKING THAT I AM CHEATING ON HIM IS THIS PART OF USING?

Yes, the paranoia is definitely a part of the using. I was accused of cheating all the time too, yet I never left the house. Hmmm, wonder how that could happen. Plus I was pregant for the most part then had the baby. Yep, I was out cheating. He was the one cheating on me, with Tina, or Crystal, or whatever you want to call her.

If he's a seasoned meth user he most likely uses regularly, aside from the crash cycle, i.e. eat, SLEEP, bytch, and get ready for the next round. His paranoia and delusions of your alleged infidelity suggest he's over the edge, and remember as addicts we lie through our teeth as we look you straight in the eye. We could sell a air-conditioner to an Eskimo!

It is possible for some to just use every now and again.
I personally have never met anyone that could but it is possible.

My husband began using again almost 3 years ago- said it was only every now and again the entire time.
Was still saying it was every now and again when his truck got repo-ed- his payments were only $100 a month. He hadn't made but 5 payments in 2 years.

He was still saying it was every now and again in January when he first quit.
Saying the same in February,March, April, May- come June he started telling me the truth.

He has been clean now for 10 months.

My husband never got paranoid about me cheating per se.
But yes, that does happen- quite frequently from what others have posted here.

Highly doubtful. It seems his behavior indicates more use than he is willing to own up to.

Educate yourself. Seek support. Live your life. Set your boundries. And stand firm.

Why is it that they acuse their wifes of cheating?? It is because of the meth or because of their guilt?? He would go to extremes, getting mad if I took a shower before he got up and that could be 2 or 3 in the afternoon. He would put q-tips in the door before we went to bed to see if anyone came into the house in the night. I can't handle it..

Hi Wife~

Welcome. Sure it is possible for someone to use every now and then but not likely IMO.
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HE HIS ALWAYS PARANIOD AND THINKING THAT I AM CHEATING ON HIM IS THIS PART OF USING???

That behavior sends some red flags. That makes me believe he is using more than he is letting on to. Yes, many people do experience paranoia when using meth.

Hello Wife:

First, my experience was that I became extremely paranoid; I had three small windows in my bedroom, that were high up on the wall. They had vertical blinds on them. I had a larger window with vertical blinds and curtains. My paranoia got to the point where I had duct-taped all edges and corners of the vertical blinds, as well as the little holes that the strings feed through, because I was sure I was being watched.

My experience with men tells me that if they suspect you are cheating, it's probably because they are guilty of it themselves. Or it could be that whole meth/sex thing, because it really does increase your libido. Maybe that's why so many guys who are using become paranoid about their gals having sex with others: because their thoughts on sex are magnified when they're spun? I don't know, but paranoia definitely comes with the territory.

Your question about using every once in awhile. In my humble opinion, I do not believe this is possible for a sustained period of time. Meth doesn't want some of you, it wants all of you, and it will eventually get it unless you stop using completely. That's my experience, that's my opinion, that's all!

I'm sorry meth has touched your life and your family. It is a terrible thing. Stay here and learn from those who have walked in your shoes.

From what you have said he is using more than he is letting on. Paranoia is one of the signs.

My boyfriend used recreationally. That was for 6 months. Before that he had tried it at least twice in two years. He finally quit. He went to a doctor and sees a therapist (there were many underlying issues). Anyway the other day we were talking about his meth use and what if he had continued. He finally admitted to me that it was getting scarey because he would wake up during the week and want it. He had not got to that point yet but was damn close. He really feels by now he would have been down that slippery slop if he would have continued.

So sure its possible to use every now and then. Eventually it turns into more than that.

Be Careful and I am sending my prayers and hugs your way.

Thank you all for all of your help, sometimes it feels better to know that someone else know how you feel. I just don't know what to do to. He has caused so much pain to our family. I am only 25 and I love him but I don't think that I can forgive him for all that he has done even if he was to get clean.

wife, my husband started using now and then, then it grew, then when I kept up the nagging it went back to now and then, but this time, now and then was a little several times a day just to get by.

My husband has cheated, lied, ignored us, ran up credit cards in my name and refused to help pay them, let us sit in the dark and cold, refused to work, failed to keep up the car and house, started building our dream house and spent the money on meth, bought butane lighters and butane while all I had was eggs to feed our daughter...I could go on with a list to last for days, but I forgive him.

I don't live with him, but I do forgive him. If I didn't forgive him, I would still be angry and bitter and would bring that into my other relationships. I am a better person because I have been able to forgive. I hope you will too.

I don't believe in 'every now and then' when it comes to Meth. My husband was paranoid about cheating too. In reality he was the one cheating. He was never home and I was always with the kids, I couldn't even get him home so I could to a 30 minute run (the athletic type of run!) He always thought I was running off hiding money too, when in fact he was the one who would spend hundreds and hundreds a month in cash not to mention the cash I stored away for emergencies.

I could tell he was using then but I can now. My husband was using every once in awhile to where it got to where he was using all the time. There was a time when he got so paranoid he was calling he cops to our house because he thought someone was messing with our car. He finally with to the hospital he said he had tooken pill that someone gave him with made him that way but come to find out he almost OD on the drugs but he never acused me of cheating on me this is just my experience.

yes
addiction just doesnt happen
behavior starts out as rare,then occassional, then habitual,compulsive, then addictive.
no such thing as an addictive personalility.
there is such a thing,during the process of growing up, not knowing who you are,beucase of the mistake of listening to what others had to say about a thing, and you took there workd for it instead of listening to your heart.we practice this.we keep making the same mistake in our thinking so we literally train ourselves to listen to what others have to say about how things are.the older we get, the more we loose ourselves.the more we loose ourselves, the more we want to escape.wether it be shopping, meth,biting our nails, smoking, or my fav, addiction to sex;...
most of us havent a clue on how to fuction as a healthy human being.we all end up getting sick, or killing one another or ourselves,or loosing that promotion....or the wife..you know, the good one.
i got lucky,, i got another good one....she has a heart of gold and loves me with every bit of it.
there are tons of people who do it rarely or occasionally...but they are in a good place...they know who they are..i do it ocasssionally...but because i have a job tha i m ust keep, because of two car payments i must pay, and rent, and her tanning bill,which she attends in las vegas, the hottest state around.i have work to do. its hard to re program 30 years of thinking im a piece of @#%$, becuase of my dads sickness.alcohol.he beat my mom and pulled a gun on me and told me i was a pice of @#%$, so i have this complex all my life, this feeling of worthlessness, that i struggle with....its hard...it hurts...but im workoing hard....im excelling at my job.. i mea im doing really well.....andi feel good because of that..sure i still get high.i got high last week.i regret it.i d rather go to the gym.but ilet that thought get into my head, and romanced that feeling, and off to the crapper i went.its sick.it really is. but i was clean for 2 monthes before that.anyways

I dunno, there's people that are paranoid, and borderline
that think the worst from the most benighn things...

speed would'nt help that, and it could cause that, but my guess it's it's a magnification of his own reality.

Paranoid Personality Disorder
SYMPTOMS
A pervasive distrust and suspiciousness of others such that their motives are interpreted as malevolent, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by four (or more) of the following:
suspects, without sufficient basis, that others are exploiting, harming, or deceiving him or her
is preoccupied with unjustified doubts about the loyalty or trustworthiness of friends or associates
is reluctant to confide in others because of unwarranted fear that the information will be used maliciously against him or her
reads hidden demeaning or threatening meanings into benign remarks or events
persistently bears grudges, i.e., is unforgiving of insults, injuries, or slights
perceives attacks on his or her character or reputation that are not apparent to others and is quick to react angrily or to counterattack
has recurrent suspicions, without justification, regarding fidelity of spouse or sexual partner

this is borderline:

The main feature of borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a pervasive pattern of instability in interpersonal relationships, self-image and emotions. People with borderline personality disorder are also usually very impulsive and occurs in most by early adulthood. The instable pattern of interacting with others has persisted for years and is usually closely related to the person's self-image and early social interactions. The pattern is present in a variety of settings (e.g., not just at work or home) and often is accompanied by a similar lability (fluctuating back and forth, sometimes in a quick manner) in a person's emotions and feelings. Relationships and the person's emotion may often be characterized as being shallow.

A person with this disorder will also often exhibit impulsive behaviors and have a majority of the following symptoms:

Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment
A pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterized by alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluation
Identity disturbance: markedly and persistently unstable self-image or sense of self
Impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (e.g., spending, sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, binge eating)
Recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, or threats, or self-mutilating behavior
Affective instability due to a marked reactivity of mood (e.g., intense episodic dysphoria, irritability, or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days)
Chronic feelings of emptiness
Inappropriate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger (e.g., frequent displays of temper, constant anger, recurrent physical fights)
Transient, stress-related paranoid ideation or severe dissociative symptoms