Is it hard to get a job after a felony?

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life after "death"

is it hard to get a job even with a felony? and if so what keeps you motovated to keep pushing on?

mom kept saying if she could only get a job things would be ok.... well she would get a job and then lost it....it only happened once after she got out the first time... and then she would say no one would give her a chance. needless to say things didnt get better! is it really that hard to get back into the swing of things? i hope not. she has been out of work for about 8 years but with little jobs here and there but not many! will she ever get back, even kinda, to the way she was??

NytePassion

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Check this forum out .. maybe it can help your mom
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Passion

still catest

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My friend...well, excuse me, a "person that I no longer feel safe being around but used to use with and hung out a little bit in recovery"...anyway, she has 6 felonies, and is serving time in a halfway house. One of the requirements is that she get a job.

There are places that will hire a felon. It depends on the type of work and the acutal crime comitted. For instance, she had credit card fraud and theft as 2 of her felonies, so she couldn't work for a telmarketing company that took credit card numbers over the phone.

Just wanted to put my thoughts in there. Also, social services/human services (whatever it's called where you're at) often have rehabilitation programs to get her hooked-up with some companies or do training or something.

There is no excuse. And by the way, just MY opinion, everything wouldn't have been "alright" if she had just had a job. Like AngieNCali has said to me, "It's an inside deal." It's what's inside of her.

pleasehelp

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thank you. she has attempt to distribute.... and thats all. well that i know of....she does not tell me everything but i try to get it out of her. i will check with ss here and see what they can do. i think in my heart i knew that she wouldnt be "ok" once she got a job but i wanted it to work so bad. i knew if she HAD SOMETHING to do other than free time she could kick it. we all make choices....huh. i hope that all the pain inside of her goes away so i can have her back.

angieNcali

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If I only had a job things would be okay, If only someone would care, If only I could out of this relationship, If only I had a car, If only I weren't alone, If only I was alone, If Only.... If Only .... If Only ....

They are all excuses. None are true. Though we DO BELIEVE THEM. Another game our mind plays on us. Lies, Lies, Lies ... and we Buy into them hook line and sinker... I know I did.

She will never be okay ... EVER .... until she can walk away from that drug and the lifestyle and everything that goes with and Learn How to be okay with herself.

Until she realizes her head is lying to her. That this love affair with Meth has been a Big Lie ... it seduced her to reel her in and take her over ....

But it is up to her to get to a place where she wants to change.

pleasehelp

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thank you it really means alot to hear that.
love
meli

angieNcali

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Because we do and can get and stay sober ...

JOB OR NO JOB, CAR OR NO CAR, HOUSE OR NO HOUSE , HUSBAND/WIFE OR NO HUSBAND/WIFE .... CHILDREN OR NO CHILDREN ..........

pleasehelp

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i see now i just didnt want to..... i would do almost anything to get my mom back though you know. but i see now that i cant do anything, but pray!

angieNcali

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There are things you can do. Like be honest with her about her B.S. - dont sugar coat things because you worry about how it is going to affect her. Let her know how you feel ... how much you love her and care for her ... But that you want your Mom Back and arent gonna play these games of hers anymore. Be Firm but fair ... Be supportive with out being the entire Support. Let her walk on her own to feet and dont try to catch her when you see her falling instead point it out to her.

Let her do the work. And call her on her crap when you know that is what it is.

I know It is hard - and heart breaking. ANd yes Pray pray pray. I am So glad you are here.

Have you ever used ?

pleasehelp

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i tried a mini thin once and i cleaned the house in like one hour and almost had a heart attack so no i never used meth. i have tried pot but i gained weight so i stoped. i smoke ciggs and i almost turned into an alcholic but got a grip on what i was doing. i have a beer like once a week now if that. im broke trying to get this wedding together.

angieNcali

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Well good for you. dont ever try meth ... and dont ever allow yourself to turn into an alcoholic. Its no fun.

Stay focused on the good things in life. Like the new family your starting, your soon to be husband, etc etc etc.

Life is too short.

Enjoy it.

I know I was BROKE paying for my wedding. I was just married in Septemeber.

pleasehelp

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i will NEVER try it.... after seeing what it has done to my mom....no way! mom was a very respected real estate agent for 15 years and after my dad passed and she got cancer i think it became too much for her to bear alone. i was not enough to keep her happy as much as i wanted to be. i became the mother and the child at the same time. it all started when i was 12 or 13 cant remember. but that is the past and where it should stay....in the past.

i am also here to try to let go. i am ready to start my family and become a mohter. it is a new chapter in my life and i am scared....i want my mommy!

i DO agree that life is too short! after dad and mom getting cancer i learned that: everyday is a holiday and every meal is a banquet! live it like it is your last!

congrads!!! i wish you a long happy life together!

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