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Raising a Meth Baby - Need Help!


Chantilly
 
Help! Raising a Meth Baby
I am raising a baby whose mother was & is addicted to meth. See was on meth during pregnancy & I am pretty sure she is on it now. Her son is 8 months old & she is 6 months pregnant. Every time I go to pick him up from the parents house about a day later he is banging his head on anything he can. I NEED HELP to find out what soothes them or just what to do.
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Guene Re: Help! Raising a Meth Baby
Welcome to the board and I'm so sorry to hear about the baby. I really don't know anything about that, but I'm glad that you are here.
sweetJR Re: Help! Raising a Meth Baby
omg, please intervene and call CPS! Just reading this upsets me! She needs to be locked up until this other baby comes and then the baby put in a safe home! Same with the 8 month old! the banging head thing , omg, just makes me ill to think if it is from meth exposure.
TnSkye Re: Help! Raising a Meth Baby
I'm sorry you had to find us for this.

Have you spoken with a doctor about this? There are various reasons why a baby would be doing this, from meth or otherwise.

This is truely, truely sad. I have a 6 month old niece and I can't imagine her banging her head...Something is definately wrong with this picture. Best of luck to you. Keep us informed, won't you?

Babies born to meth mothers is still 'experimental' I guess you could say. We know 'this' could happen and 'that' could happen, but for the most part, the children appear to be normal.

We do have a friend here who has recently found out that her young daughter is ADHD and is likely due to her meth use during pregnancy, but no one can know for sure.
imlostinky Re: Help! Raising a Meth Baby
Have him evaluated through a knowledgeable pediatrician.
Banging head is often a sign of autism.

Does he show emotion? Can you see his smiles in his eyes?
How is he with connecting and bonding?
Does he rock back and forth quite a bit?

I'd have a pediatrician who is experienced with autism do an evaluation.
Most definitely.
The banging of the head is an indication of something going on - emotional or physical.
Naiev
Newlywed
Re: Help! Raising a Meth Baby
Chantilly,

First off welcome...I'm glad you're here.

SweetJR is right, you need to intervene...wondering what is going to "soothe" the child I think should be the least of the worries...let's get the baby out of the situation.

Are you in a position to do that? Legal intervention needs to happen....in my opinion.
sickand
tired77
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Yeah- I was thinking that too, JR.

The best advice I can give you is to keep that baby away from the parents! If they are using meth, then the baby obviously has no place there.

Now...

If she is 6 months along now, then that should be far enough along for the fetus to be considered viable...
Meaning that the authorities CAN step in to make sure she doesn't use for the remainder of this pregnancy.

Not reporting the incident(s) is doing a favor to NO ONE.

I'd say (without hesistation) that you should CALL THE LAW!
Chantilly Re: Help! Raising a Meth Baby
I have been asked to be the legal gaurdian for this child & the unbron child when the girl goes to jail for a few months. I have signed papers to be the gaurdian but it is a revockable contract that the mother could revock at any time. I picked him up last sat night they said sunday that they would call for him in a hour or 2. Its been 2 days now. They might have left the country
imlostinky Re: Help! Raising a Meth Baby
Good info here about head banging.
Quote:
But children who are overstimulated (in an overwhelming environment) find these rhythmic movements soothing.

Ah Ha - lightbulb.

S&T , yep without a doubt.

Chantilly Re: Help! Raising a Meth Baby
He does show emotion but is a very irritable baby. Short attention span, constantly wanting to bounce or shake his head.
sickand
tired77
 
Re: Help! Raising a Meth Baby
If you report what's going on, then you should be able to file a temporary order stipulating full custody for the time being.

Just a suggestion.
sweetJR Re: Help! Raising a Meth Baby
chantily, like you say the thing you signed has no binding; get an attorney and make it binding so they can't do the wander in and wander out of the child(ren)'s lives! you are the start of a major hero for these two; make it permanent for them and you!
Guene Re: Help! Raising a Meth Baby
He needs a good doctor and love. How very sad, poor thing, please find some help for him and I agree with everybody here, she would be turned in.
Chantilly Re: Help! Raising a Meth Baby
I am trying to get her to go to The Agape House( its a chritian based transitional home in our town for women who are drug dependant), our church & myself are involved deeply with them.
Naiev
Newlywed
Re: Help! Raising a Meth Baby
What is her reaction to this Chantilly?

Has she expressed any desire?
Chantilly Re: Help! Raising a Meth Baby
She is sentenced to go to jail for at least 4 months but the jail is full & doesnt want to pay for a c-section so they are letting her wait until the baby is born. Her & her boyfriend did come to church yesterday & she shows signs of being able to be reached but the baby's daddy is a tough shell
sickand
tired77
Re: Help! Raising a Meth Baby
Is she going to jail on meth-related charges?
dells Re: Help! Raising a Meth Baby
Is CPS involved, is the time with the parents "visits", is the child with you all the time except for visits? I would say any time at all with parents needs to be supervised. If the guardianship is not mandated by the court then it should be, none of this back & forth stuff with this baby. Regarding the child in utero, call CPS now to protect that baby till birth.
Are you willing to take both babies? God Bless you, these babies need you!
Chantilly Re: Help! Raising a Meth Baby
Yes she is going on drug charges. Plus the boyfriend has a warrent for his arrest. As soon as she goes off I am calling his Parole Officer. I am just afraid she will hit the road if he gets put in jail.
Naiev
Newlywed
Re: Help! Raising a Meth Baby
If you get him out of the way now, maybe she'll check into treatment though....let's think about that?
cmom
 
Re: Help! Raising a Meth Baby
Chantilly,
By all means, contact CPS and also have the child checked out by a pediatrician.
Chantilly Re: Help! Raising a Meth Baby
I am willing to take the babies full time. Right now I am just a substitute Grandma. On the other hand I am in my 40s with adult children who dont have any kids yet so raising a child & getting used to the late nights again is a big adjustment.
sickand
tired77
Re: Help! Raising a Meth Baby
With the current situation, you should have no problem getting that order for full custody.

My understanding as to how this works is that you would file the order, stating your reason. Then she would be court-ordered to a drug test. When she doesn't pass, you win... simple as that.

I would also presume since she is currently pregnant, that she would be incarcerated NOW rather than after the baby is born as a means to protect this baby from being further subjected to her drug use.
Once the fetus is considered viable, it IS a punishable crime for her to still be using.

What state are you in?
Only asking what state you are in because I know the info I've given is good for Oklahoma...

I just don't know for sure how things work everywhere else!
Chantilly Re: Help! Raising a Meth Baby
Does anybody have experience with this type of child? I didnt know if there were any suggestions or comments on what to do or expect.
sickand
tired77
 
Re: Help! Raising a Meth Baby
I researched a bit & would recommend that you check into Arkansas SB-114.
TnSkye
 
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SFJ recently posted an article about a woman in Hawaii whose drug use caused her unborn child to die. I forget all the details. There was something about it living for 4-5 days. I guess she had a c-section???

Any way, the judge said she was innocent because the fetus was not a living being. This was the woman who now works for Doug Chapman-Dog, The Bounty Hunter.
sickand
tired77
 
Re: Help! Raising a Meth Baby
The link that imlostinky provided gives some good info regarding the child's behavior.

You should read that if you haven't already.

Actually, it says that chldren who bang their heads may end up being VERY intelligent.

Check it out!
Amom Re: Help! Raising a Meth Baby
I really hesitate to mention this, it is very embarrassing. I think you will have to follow up with Dr. But I was a head banger -I bet it was to soothe but our house was only moderately disfunctional,(just some yelling in an Italian household. no drinking, definatley no drugs, no physical punishments. if there is such a thing. I am 50 ( gulp ) now. I did out- grow it far as I know! But they even put a plastic curler in my hair. They were afraid I would hurt myself. Even the neighbors could hear it! I was always high strung and never have slept well. Even before all of this crap.
Just wanted you to know it may not be a serious problem but you will want to follow it up, It for me was more like chewing on a pencil or tapping fingers I guess.
nano
banano
Re: Help! Raising a Meth Baby
hERE IS ONE GOOD LINK I FOUND...THERE ARE MANY MORE OUT THERE THAT MAY HELP YOU!

www.kidsource.com/kidsour...#Resources

A while back I found an excellent site about drug exposed or affected children, but can't find it now......there are more and more resources out there, as the problem is getting worse. I'd also suggest going to sites about "reactive attachment disorder" as they have many suggestions about caring for children exposed to drugs in-utero......you will find many links to help you from these sites.

My step-grandaughter was exposed to meth in-utero in the first few months of her mother's pregnancy and was a head banger, rarely made eye contact....did not respond to smiles and human interaction as "normal" babies do....I learned all I could and worked, and worked, and worked with her.....she is now 8 and still has some problems, such as impulsiveness, aggressive behavior, no empathy and compassion etc......she's learned the proper responses in given situations through constant reinforcement and repetition, but left to her own devices, her responses are not driven by conscience, but rather by what she's been taught.....for instance, she will still at times, step over or around a hurt/bleeding/crying playmate in the yard, seemingly oblivious to their pain, and rush to an adult asking for a popsicle or something she wants at the moment....she must constantly be reminded of the proper response....stopping to see if playmate is ok etc.

Learn, learn, learn all you can.....these childrn need CONSISTENCY, FIRM BOUNDARIES, LOTS OF PHYSICAL AFFECTION/EYE CONTACT AND UNCONDITIONAL LOVE!

GOOD LUCK....YOU HAVE MY ADMIRATION AND RESPECT .....THIS CHILD NEEDS YOU....YOU WILL NEED LOTS OF SUPPORT FOR YOURSELF TOO....THIS IS NOT AN EASY JOB, BUT IT IS SOOOOO WORTH IT!

See also:

Meth affecting pregnancy?

Crystal Meth and Methamphetamine effects on Children Topics


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