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My Meth Baby and past pregnancy


Teressa
NM
My METH BABY and past pregnancy
I've seen a couple of posts lately regarding the use of meth during pregnancy. I just wanted to put in my .02.

I used meth until I found out I was pregnant, I was 4 months along at that point. I decided to quit then and there. But, I had a couple of relapses and was not completely clean until the begining of my last trimester.

The doctors said: My son would come early...He was 2 weeks late

My son would have low birth weight...He weighed 8lbs. 14ozs.

Everyday when I take him to day care the teacher are falling all over themselves to tell me just how bright he is. In fact, he sees a developmental specialist once a month, just to put my mind at ease. She continues to assure me that my son's progress is off the charts.

Now don't get me wrong, I'm not condoning using meth during pregnancy! God no! What I'm saying is nothing is impossible. My son is the reason I got clean and the reason I STAY clean. I just wanted to maybe give people hope concerning meth and pregnancy. I know what the medical community says, but I am living proof that God transcends.

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Guene Re: My METH BABY and past pregnancy
Teresa that is so beautiful, I love to hear stories with great happy endings so much. I'm glad your son is fine and that he is growing up normal and healthly too. Congrats on you being clean and changing your life around too. Love and Hugs
LivesWith
Wolves
Re: My METH BABY and past pregnancy
Teressa,
I am glad that you have a happy, healthy baby. And congratulations on getting and staying clean.

How old is your baby now?
Do you think you were fairly healthy before you got pregnant?
Did you eat good, nutritional food?
Did you drink alcohol or do other drugs?
Were you living in a comfortable, safe place?

I think there are many factors to having a healthy baby. Meth, unfortunately takes away so much from someone's body and life that little is left. The mom's I have dealt with were doing numerous drugs for long periods of time and were living on the street.
Teressa
NM
Re: My METH BABY and past pregnancy
How old is your baby now? 2 in May
Do you think you were fairly healthy before you got pregnant? not really, I had been on meth for 5 years
Did you eat good, nutritional food? in the 3rd trimester I did
Did you drink alcohol or do other drugs? No alcohol, or other drugs but I was smoking about a pack of ciggs a day which I also quit
Were you living in a comfortable, safe place? I was homeless bouncing from place to place until my last trimester when I got into a group home.
LivesWith
Wolves
Re: My METH BABY and past pregnancy
So, you sound like "a typical" addict......and this was your first baby. I assume you are young.

Without trying to bring you down and make you worry, I would just offer this bit of advice.

Watch closely when your child starts in the school system. It is when they try to use their brain that you notice their peculiar difficulties. And, in watching closely, you will be prepared to help them learn different ways of learning the things they have problems with.

Hopefully, your little Einstein will grow to be something great and not struggle in school!!!

Keep up the good work MOM.
Teressa
NM
Re: My METH BABY and past pregnancy
Actually this is my second child. I have a 12 yr old daughter as well. I am 31, I guess, feels older some days than others  I think tweeker years are like dog years 1=7

I will be very tuned in to all of his developmental levels, I just wanted to post this bit of info so that people don't automatically think they have no options when the discover they are pregnant while on meth. Miracles happen every day!
mkf Re: My METH BABY and past pregnancy
I am very happy for your son that he is excelling. that's wonderful. I'm also appreciative that you are not condoning meth use during pregnancy, and that your son is your motivation to stay clean.

I hope you consider yourself lucky. Statistics show your son's result of your use is not the norm. He certainly is a blessing - he may very well have saved your life!
25 years
but no
more
Re: My METH BABY and past pregnancy
My two daughters are meth babies too. They are 13 and 9 years old now, and BOTH have always been at the tops of their class. Two years ago, my oldest daughter won the Scripps Spelling Bee for her whole school. I agree with you that not ALL meth babies have problems. My first was two weeks early. My water broke that morning 15 minutes after the Landers earthquake hit California, and the 2nd large earthquake that day came while I was in labor. My youngest daughter came ON her due date and weighed 9.1 lbs., and both daughters are extremely healthy too. It depends on how much meth you used, and on what days you used it. If you used a toxic amount on a critical day of development, then your baby is in trouble. On the other hand, if you ate well, and took vitamins, you have a good chance at a healthy baby. It is like Russian Roulette. All babies develop at different times, therefore nobody knows what the critical days are for each different baby. You and I were just lucky twice. I thank god for it every day of my life.
irish
11682
Re: My METH BABY and past pregnancy
omg, I hope people (women) post more on this subject.

to the original poster, thank you sooo much for your imput.

all that comes to mind to say is thank you.
Nyte
Passion
Re: My METH BABY and past pregnancy
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I am living proof that God transcends.
Powerful Words depicting the Powerful Truth!
CONCERNED
NANNY
Re: My METH BABY and past pregnancy
 
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I know what the medical community says, but I am living proof that God transcends.
Teressa,
You have given me some peace. I googled and found this board. My daughter (17) is pregnant and not her, but the daddy of her baby was (supposedly clean) a meth user. I have put this into prayer so you have given me some hope.
Penelope Re: My METH BABY and past pregnancy
Please, understand I mean no harm, insult, or anything bad about you or your child...

But when I hear:
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I am living proof that God transcends.
I absolutely cringe - I think about my mother who did everything she was supposed to do - no drugs, no booze, good nutrition, yet my little brother Dougie is Autistic. I cringe when I hear that "God Transends" when I think about all of the disabled adults and children I took care of when I worked at the state hospital. I cringe when I hear "God Trancends" and I think of all the kids in the world who starve and die on a daily basis.

I don't think God had a thing to do with it. I think you were just VERY, VERY LUCKY.

Mother nature does some very cruel things to people - go to your local state hospital or special education center if you don't believe me.

If God transcends, then what happened to my little brother?

Again - no insult intended and I hope you don't take it that way. It's just that I've seen the worst case scenarios of Mother Natures (Or God's, if you want to see it that way) cruelty. This is not meant to target you, Teressa.

I think things just happen as a matter of luck, genes, and nature. If you'd seen what I have seen in my lifetime, you might believe the same.
CONCERNED
NANNY
Re: My METH BABY and past pregnancy
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I don't think God had a thing to do with it. I think you were just VERY, VERY LUCKY.
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Mother nature does some very cruel things to people - go to your local state hospital or special education center if you don't believe me.
Penelope,
I am a Special Education Teacher and I feel that in essence I am a worker (of sorts) of God!! We don't have to understand why God does what he does, we just have to trust him.

By the way some of the students I deal with are the way they are because of {excuse my French} stupid ass women who think more of themselves than they do the life inside of them and do drugs and cause this damage. Mother was there all right!!!

I don't know why I was an addict; why my daughter got pregnant at age 16 by a supposed former meth addict; why I had a husband (not my current husband) that beat me; why my mother died of cancer when I was 17. I am a very good person; guess I was just lucky (as you say) huh?!

If God was to make everything perfect (which you seem to think all bad things are to be blamed on him). Why would we need this world anyway.

Have you ever heard of the main thing that God gave us to make us "keepers of ourselves?" It's called FREE WILL!!

I apologize if I have come off sounding like a pain in the ass, but these are my feelings and it really makes me mad when people use the Disabled to wrench their fists at God!!!
Sfj Re: My METH BABY and past pregnancy
There’s at least two sides to this and every other opinion. Let me tell you why I’m entering this discussion even though I’m not a mother. First, I care about those who are. I have a mother, I’m married to a mother, my sister is a mother, and my daughter is a mother. I am a husband and a father. We’ve had five children. The third, died at age eleven and a half months. That was over twenty years ago. She was born with Down’s syndrome and congenital heart disease. The other four are all happy, healthy, well-adjusted, successful adults. I’m very thankful for my wife and family.

When our little angel was born, the attending pediatrician instantly told us she was ‘mentally retarded.’ That is not an easy thing to hear ten minutes after the joy of birth.

I spent months and years harboring guilt and shame. I thought God was punishing me because I was a sinner. There was even a minister in the church we were attending that said our baby’s condition was a result of my previous sins. My wife has never done drugs of any sort in her whole life. I had not used any drugs, drink, cigarettes or anything similar for years. I was very young and this was twenty years before my meth run.

How does a person get over something like that? There are thousands of handicapped children and their parents have never used drugs.

Is it fair to blame the parents?
Is it fair to blame God?


I really don’t think so.

I really think that there are way too many things that are beyond our scope of understanding to try and figure out. Far beyond my knowledge, that’s for sure.
CONCERNED
NANNY
Re: My METH BABY and past pregnancy
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I spent months and years harboring guilt and shame. I thought God was punishing me because I was a sinner. There was even a minister in the church we were attending that said our baby’s condition was a result of my previous sins.
Sfj, my friend I empathize with you for having to harbor that guilt (for which you should not of had to do) for so many years. Yes, I am a firm believer in God, but I do not believe the mininster was right in saying what he said to you; he should of been there to comfort you.
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I really think that there are way too many things that are beyond our scope of understanding to try and figure out. Far beyond my knowledge, that’s for sure.
You have put it more eloquently than I could have. That is kinda what I was trying say.

On another note, Sfj. I have read many posts that you have made and to be honest with you I actually thought you were a mom (no offense; I'm saying that as a compliment to you. You have the heart and feelings that you so often see in a mom. Your kids are very blessed to have you as a dad!
no more
mething
around
Re: My METH BABY and past pregnancy
Your story is inspiring, God transcends - absolutely.

If we believe God is responsible for all that is screwed in the world can we not give Him credit for all that is good as well?

JMHO
Teressa
NM
Re: My METH BABY and past pregnancy
lisa...I agree with you. I never intended for this post to become a religious debate.

I just know that, for me, in my soul that I could not have overcome the things that I did without God. I was weak, thus the addiction, however God lifted me above.

We are all sinners, EVERYONE of us! I do not, however, believe that God punishes us for it, in ANY way.

I could say more on this topic but I won't. Again I never meant for this to become a religion debate.

The whole purpose for my post was just to give some hope to folks dealing with meth issues and pregnancy.

I remember how hopeless and helpless I felt. I felt like I was drowning and nothing and no one could/would help me. I ended up helping myself with the help and compassion of total strangers.

Just an attempt at a post that would offer hope and maybe a light at the end of the tunnel.

~Much love to all
Brn7more Re: My METH BABY and past pregnancy
I was one of them (disgusting to me) selfish mothers who regrets every moment of it now that I'm clean and my head is screwed on a little better, who used during her pregnancy. You know I shot up everyday for the first four months I was so high I forgot I was pregnant until the baby was kicking inside of me. I was so scared knowing how much dope I'd done... and God only know3s why my baby was born 9 pounds and as far as anyone could tell "normal"! I have always wondered and kept it in my mind that someday he was going to have problems. He started school and is doing o.k. so far... I took him to the Doctors and had him checked for hep. B and C... now I can't help but wonder that maybe he'll developed some kind of mental illness after the age of 18 ???? I feel so bad I couldn't live with myself if I did another thing to hurt him. That's what drives me to stay clean (5 years now)! Like I said God ONLY knows what's re4ally going on here............
25 years
but no
more
Re: My METH BABY and past pregnancy
I too feel terrible that I used during my pregnancies. All we can do now is just have the happiest life that we can with them and hope for the best. Now that I am clean I thank god every day for their good health.
mkf Re: My METH BABY and past pregnancy
perhaps if you believe God had something to do with your child being healthy - maybe he gave you a healthy child so you would see the light and quit using.

I still think people who use during pregnancy are playing russian roulette with someone else's life. Not said to belittle anyone here - I've read the stories and I know I've done things I regret doing and feel I wronged my children - so no judgment from me.

But I think Penelope was right.
Teressa
NM
Re: My METH BABY and past pregnancy
Mkf...I ABSOLUTELY believe that God put my son in my life to "save" me from myself. I thank Him every singlr day for it!

The other thing that I feel needs to be said, for those who may be silently...or not so silently condemning me is this...
I didn't get pregnant on purpose. Like most addicts I was just out there getting high and having stupid, mindless sex. The only difference between me and you is I got pregnant and you didn't. It could have happened to you too. And even once you know it's not like you just set your pipe down and say "Oh I'm pregnant now I guess I better stop!"

Getting pregnant with my son and the events that followed just happened to be my epiphany. Thankfully we all at some point had such an epiphany. Different events, same outcomes. We all credit our sobriety to something different. I don't condemn you, please grant others the same courtesy.
sarah
1652
Re: My METH BABY and past pregnancy
I agree with Nanny- Yes- God is all knowing...he is all knowing- just as we do not understand some things- he knows all- eben his reasons and his whys...
lilbitcrzy
97
Re: My METH BABY and past pregnancy
i used meth day in and out and lived on the streets hiding from the police until i found out i was pregnant, about 3 months in. i was then reported to the county for being a pregnant iv narcotics addict. i was drud tested at every dr appt and failed every test up until my last month(i had stopped the meth but kept on with smoking pot and cigs) i also had a heart attack in my sixth month. my daughter was born clean 6 days late and i had the stomach flu during back labor. do u have any idea what its like to throw up with every contraction.YUCK!!!! she was 7lbs 11oz and is now 9 and happy and healthy she never gets sick she is a straight A student with perfect attendance. her school tested her and recomended i let her go from the 1st grade to the 3rd but i diddnt think it was a good idea at the time. so she is now in 3rd grade but could be in the 4th she attends enrichment classes she reads at a 6th grade level and and uses words that i don't even know. i consider myself very lucky that things turned out the way they did. getting pregnant was the only thing that saved my life back then im not sure yet whats gonna do it this time
Teressa
NM
Re: My METH BABY and past pregnancy
Lilbitcrzy...are you using again? What's your story? Maybe I missed it somewhere along the way?
lilbitcrzy
97
Re: My METH BABY and past pregnancy
I dont come around very much so my story is not posted. i started using meth again about a year ago when my daughters dad wondered back into our lives for awhile. he only came around if he had drugs but he disappeared again in october and we havent heard from him since. but i start using when i was 9 and my mom took my 2 sisters and moved out of state and left me with my drug addicted abusive dad. the longest i've been clean since then was 3 months during my pregnancy I used just about everything jusy depending on availability or who i was hanging with. but since i had my daughter i pretty much stayed with weed and not much more then a few years back i was in a relationship where my bf didnt approve of it so i quit and started drinking with him. iwas never a drinker i didn't like the loss of control but i'm a switcher i switch habbits deppending on whats around. i wasdrinking very heavy for about a year and a half. i lost the job i had for 6 years and almost lost the house i had buily 2 1/2 yr ago i finally quit drinking when her dad came around because it chased off the other guy and thats what her dad and i always did together so it was just second nature.i always knew that meth was my drug of choice and if i could get it i would.its sad thought because they say u stop maturing mentally when u start using which would make my daughter and me the same age.
mkf Re: My METH BABY and past pregnancy
TeressaNM - I believe what I said was - NO JUDGMENT FROM ME -

I don't condemn you or anyone else - perhaps you misunderstood my comments.
mkf Re: My METH BABY and past pregnancy
Just one more thing - my intention wasn't to cause you to feel bad or angry - I'm sorry if it did.
Teressa
NM
Re: My METH BABY and past pregnancy
mkf...my comments were not directed in anyone in particular just the world in general. I guess sometimes I just get a little indignant over peoples judgements as a whole...sorry if my anger seemed directed at you or anyone in particular I am sorry that was not my intent.
Penelope Re: My METH BABY and past pregnancy
Nanny...
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I am a Special Education Teacher and I feel that in essence I am a worker (of sorts) of God!!
I feel the same way. I've been working with the disabled or the mentally ill since 1980. Prior to that, I was a volunteer and the babysitter for every disabled kid that belonged to my mom's friends.
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I apologize if I have come off sounding like a pain in the ass, but these are my feelings and it really makes me mad when people use the Disabled to wrench their fists at God!!!
I am in no way wrenching my fist at God. God and I are pretty good friends. What I am saying is that the disabled are the way they are sometimes for reasons we do understand (Cerebral Palsy is one example, PKU, Hydrocephaly) and then there are those who are disabled because of some dirty trick that nature or genetics has played upon them.

what I do NOT believe is that God saves some kids and disables others. I believe these things happen as a matter of nature, luck, genetics, and things we don't yet understand.

One thing I DO agree with - as a special ed teacher, as a psych nurse, as a volunteer at the Special Olympics, or as the guy who drops a quarter in the can to help the disabled - YES, WE ARE DOING GOD'S WORK.

I just don't believe that God has anything to do with whether or not an individual is disabled or not. I believe it is a matter of LUCK and NATURE.
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If God was to make everything perfect (which you seem to think all bad things are to be blamed on him). Why would we need this world anyway.
Re-read my post. After you're done, you'll see that what I am saying is that I blame God for NOTHING - for nothing good and for nothing bad. I believe that things sometimes just happen - Sfj said it the best:
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I really think that there are way too many things that are beyond our scope of understanding to try and figure out. Far beyond my knowledge, that’s for sure.
Some things are beyond our comprehension and that it is sometimes too easy and convenient to blame God. I blame God for NOTHING.

Bad things happen to good people, and good things happen to bad people. Such is the world.

I believe with all my heart that God is always there for me when I need GUIDANCE in order to navigate my way through this confusing thing we have called "Life." It's up to me to follow his guidance - thats our "GOD GIVEN" free will for those of us who are blessed enough to use it. For those who are not so blessed as to be able to exercise their free will, I feel we are OBLIGATED to care for them... like you and I are doing now!
mom
mab38
Re: My METH BABY and past pregnancy
My daughter, who is a meth addict quit cold turkey when she found out she was pregnant, about 3 months. I am so proud she had the guts and willpower to stay clean after she found out she was pregnant. I can only hope and prey she stays clean after he is born. God puts everyone on this earth for a reason, and takes u away when HE wants to. I just want to say hang in there and take care of your child the best u know how. Love to ya, Donna
25years
butno
more
Re: My METH BABY and past pregnancy
Donna - Tell your daughter congratulations for being ABLE to quit cold turkey when she found out that she was pregnant. You are a very lucky grandmother with a very strong willed daughter. Good for her!

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